How to Stop Arguments and fights from Killing your relationship
No relationships are without arguments fights and disagreements in this world. You take 2 different people who have different sets of hopes, dreams, likes and dislikes and opinions in life and when they live together it is obvious that they are going to have sparks flaring between them. The magic is in being able to walk through those things!
The basic reason why people argue and fight is this “wanting of control “. Think about it! You would not have a fight or an argument with a person with whom you’re not trying to force to agree with you.
Here is a very interesting idea if you don’t want to break up because of your fights or arguments: It is the concept of agreeing to disgreements!! The fact is you are going to have different ideas and different perspectives in life, but you don’t want that to end your relationship.
Go about saying,” I like blue and you like green? So what? It doesn’t matter.Life is great!”. Its ok to have different ideas and perspectives, but you still have to do things that your partner likes and which you don’t like, ocassionally to make each other happy.
A guaranteed way to stop fighting is to STOP first. It absolutely takes two persons to argue and so, if one of them stops, then the argument ends! You are always in control of what you do, so you take the charge and stop!
An argument begins with sentences starting with you! “You did this! You said that! You told this!”. If you just take a step outside from the argument and look at how the two of you are fighting, it looks like a furious ping-pong match. And with each fling it starts escalating! With every single statement it starts escalating and escalating and escalating till it gets you both to nothingness.
It is utterly useless and only boosts up our ego in saying, “Yeah! I’m right and your not” and so on. After one or two back and forths its pure ego thats holding you up. So the earlier you stop, the better!